Mom Life Chapter 2

Sometimes all you need is a little Grace.....

Being a mom is hard.  

The endless messes to clean up. The sleepless nights and sticky fingers touching everywhere. The meal prep, the nap schedule, the tantrums, the kitchen sink overflowing with dishes . . . And then as your children get older, all the activities, putting a hot meal on the table, and THEN comes the HOMEWORK you can’t figure out. Am I smarter than my 7th grader or 8th? The answer is no, no I’m not. - Thank you Jeff Foxworthy lol!  

No doubt it’s hard being a mom. That’s the truth, but what about the deeper truths?  The reasons that keep you up at night. The reasons that make you want to cry. The deeper reasons you feel in the pit of your stomach. The real truths you can’t prepare for.

For me the truth is I struggle at being vulnerable.

My husband is an exceptional writer and can put his feelings out there in any scenario, but myself on the other hand not so much. It’s a personal weakness I’ve been muddling around with trying to make a strength, and one of my priorities to be a better mother/wife. I’ve come to a point in which my own personal growth benefits myself, but also the people I love the most even more. He’s pushed me out of my comfort zone within the past 2 years and this is my latest share at one of our favorite coffee houses on Open Mic night.

Grace.

Give her Grace. 

She’s not mad at you. Her attitude isn’t intentional. She’s snappy because she’s running on fumes. She’s on the verge of tears honestly just because, well, life. She’s in her head thinking how much she doesn’t want to feel that way. 

Give her grace. 

You do help her. She knows you do a lot too. She knows your mind is full of self-doubt and the never-ending list of adulting responsibilities too. She knows you each share a different kind of “hard”. She knows you need a break too. She didn’t mean to make you frustrated or upset along with her. She feels guilty she can’t just push through somedays. She feels even worse knowing she is bringing your mood down with her. 

Give her grace. 

She try’s really hard to keep it together and remember everything. She forgot a few things at the grocery a store. Yes, she had a list but forgot it when the baby distracted her or she forgot to switch out the laundry before leaving or went in kitchen to get it and noticed the dog bowl was empty. 

Give her grace. 

She knows everyone is waiting on her to get out the door because it’s a nice day. She’s late because she knew someone was going to forget the towels, so she packed them. She was busy making sandwiches, 3 with Mayo, 1 mustard only, 2 likes tomatoes, 2 don’t, 1 extra lettuce. She wrote names on the bags so no one has to figure it out later. She packed all kinds of things she knew everyone would need and forget. She probably forgot to grab her own sunglasses. 

Give her grace

She is always needed. How blessed she is to be surrounded by such love and people who trust her to take care of them. She somedays just needs to be given a little understanding that she is doing her best for everyone. Some days just give her a hug and hold her, words aren’t always needed. Her frustration isn’t always a direct relation to something you did, it just “is”. She is learning and changing with every new phase of growth. Somedays when you see the writing on the wall or she tells you she is reaching a breaking point.

Give her grace.

After reading this I felt so empowered and heard. And VULNERABLE as hell! So to all the Moms out there don’t be afraid to ask for help, don’t be afraid to cry for no flipping reason, and don’t be afraid to be vulnerable.

You’re strong.

You’re beautiful.

You’re doing everything right.

Thank you for reading, it’s such a vulnerable thing to share, but I hope you’ve enjoyed. None of us know if were doing things right, but one thing that I’ve grown to be OK with is maybe I’m not doing everything right and that in itself is OK. My daily reminder is when I look at my kids smiles, hear them laugh, and walk around pick up all their things laying on the floor, stairs, and kitchen island I know they have EVERYTHING they need which is my love, attention, and encouragement.

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